We are used to giving. As women, it's biologically built into our DNA over thousands of years of evolution. We are good at nurturing, it's an ancient gift and survival technique.
But what about receiving? Hmm. Not so good at that eh?
The ability to receive graciously is hard for us. When someone compliments us, how can we stop ourselves from putting ourselves down in our reply? Well, let's see. You stop your mouth going into autopilot and saying, for instance, 'Oh it's marvelous what make up can cover up!' Instead, say, 'Thank you.' Smile.
Give the person the idea that you appreciate that they've just complimented you.
Give yourself a lovely refreshing breath in and breath out. Enjoy the compliment. Receive the compliment. It's a lot easier on your head, heart and soul that way.
Resisting a compliment is hard work, it requires discomfort and a fight on your behalf. That's valuable energy you're wasting! It also is a bit of a slap in the face to the person who wanted to let you have the good stuff in the first place.
So next time someone says something to you, about you that is flattering, enjoy it. It's good for you, it's good for them. Everyone wins!
Ooohhh Yes.I remember someone once telling me (prob mum!)to smile and accept it... but its soo hard to do and I am ALWAYS fighting the compliment.
Posted by: Jess | June 26, 2012 at 07:42 PM