Many of the people (not all) who come for counselling are people who've been abused. In some way, shape or form they are the victims of people who treat others badly. The abusers often come from previous pain and consequent denial but all the same, they behave as though their spouse, children or work colleague is "less than" them.
I don't get abusers in my rooms. They're usually too busy being right. The great loss for them is that they miss out on having two healthy relationships: The one they might have with themselves and the one they would have with the person who has trusted them in the first place.
As soon as my clients remember their strength, who they are and that some things are simply unacceptable, and start behaving from this base in their lives, the said abusive types run for the hills. (The hills have other gentle souls to be targetted.)
That's why the people I work with and for, have my constant admiration. The brave and the strong, the 'I've had enough, thanks' enter my rooms.
Here's to them.
That's not one of them in the picture. That's Andy, a character from the comedy series, Little Britain. You can have a snicker here . Lou and Andy play out a somewhat manipulative relationship...
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