Not all of counselling and therapy is about feeling good about yourself.
Sometimes you have to look at the dark spots within, the things you'd like to keep secret and hidden. The things that only you have responsibility over. Once taken, such voluntary ownership can set a good woman (oh and man too!) free. Once taken, such responsibility can make you all grow-ed up.
The Shadow Self.
Carl Baby Jung coined the term.Shadow is not the pretty social face we put on, but the real crappy stuff that once owned and accepted, can make us fully and wholly integrated human beans.
Dealings of the shadow self are difficult at the beginning. Please note the "beginning" may comprise 3 decades of complete denial. But after that, it's all good. Such dealings can lead to very-ok experiences of acceptance, release and then freedom. Drugs? I don't think so! Gimme the dark stuff lassie!